How This Millennial Couple Bought Their First Home Before They Thought They Were Ready

August 17, 2016

We often discuss planning for obstacles in our financial planning workshops, acknowledging that even the most perfect plans need contingencies. Life happens! So when our director of PR, Danielle, and her husband Adam discovered they were expecting their first child a few years before they had planned to start their family, they obviously had to shift some of their other plans. “Obstacles” aren’t always negative things!

Danielle shared with me that she and Adam had a 3 year plan that included purchasing their first home before having kids, so when they found out they were expecting, the home purchase plan was pushed back. When she announced they were closing on a home less than 7 months after their son was born, I had to know how they worked that out! Here’s what I learned and what we can all learn from prioritizing goals and examining our spending, in an edited interview with Danielle:

Me: When did you and your husband start thinking about buying a house?

Danielle: We’d been talking about buying a home since we got married in 2014 as part of a three-year plan, but when we found out we were having our little boy earlier than we’d planned, buying our first family home became a ‘when we can’ sort of goal that sat on the back burner for about a year. We kept saving but weren’t looking seriously and were even discussing renewing the lease on our apartment when we filed our 2015 income taxes. The straw that broke the camel’s back was our tax guy telling my husband, “You need more kids and a house” to write off as we were paying a ton in taxes. We started our search then.

Me: Did it happen on the timeline that you planned?

Danielle: Surprisingly, it happened before we had planned. We didn’t think we could afford a home or were ready for the responsibility. When we realized that we’d saved enough for the required down payment and could get a pretty low rate because of the current economy, we thought now’s the time!

Me: What were the initial financial moves you made to start the process?

Danielle: We had to get our financial ducks in a row, so to speak. First, we checked our credit scores to see what kind of a rate we could get. My husband works in mortgage, so we had a pretty firm grasp on what we could qualify for and what the best program was for us based on our income and down payment savings.

We crunched the numbers to decide what our maximum monthly payment could be and then after dreaming a bit, settled on what a comfortable payment would be, and started looking. I am SO glad we stuck to the lower amount, even after looking at some awesome homes in our peak price range! We also decided to pay off some credit cards to make sure we could qualify since my husband’s income, being commission-based, could get complicated through the loan process.

Me: Did you make any changes to your spending in order to save for a down payment?

Danielle: Yes! We had been cutting back for about a year prior to looking, like going out to eat less and cutting our cable back from the full package to a basic package while using Netflix instead. I also have a hybrid car, so I started charging it more instead of filling up for more mileage on less money. We cancelled magazine subscriptions we weren’t using, and I cancelled my gym membership because our apartment complex had a pretty nice one on the premises.

My husband and I are pretty impulsive, so saving money is hard for us, but we knew we had to change those habits – especially if we were going to be responsible for a mortgage! We have been working hard to do that and it’s paying off. We also said “NO” a lot more to friends who invited us out for social events. Not only were we trying to save more in general, we were expecting a baby so we knew saving needed to be our number one priority!

Me: What tips or tricks did you learn from working at Financial Finesse that helped in this process?

Danielle: I have learned so much about simple ways to save money that can really equal large amounts of savings. I remember sitting at the counter with my husband and talking about where we could cut back. At first, it felt like nowhere!

But when we really began to break it down, we found hundreds of dollars every month we could save. That was pretty cool. I’ve also learned a lot about using credit wisely and keeping your debt to income ratio balanced, which paid off in the home buying process.

Me: Was there anything you wish you’d known before about buying a house that you have learned?

Danielle: Yes! I didn’t realize how difficult it is to buy a home in a competitive market like Southern California. It was extremely frustrating and at times, I couldn’t help but feel like the industry is pretty biased in some areas.

We were finding it was hard to even get our offers looked at. We were beat on several homes by all-cash offers, which is to be expected. What caught us off guard was that we were being completely overshadowed by offers that were being written by an agent acting as both the selling and buying agent.

This seemed crazy to me. How is this legal? It made it impossible for anyone who wasn’t working with the selling/buying agent to get a look.

When we lost a home we really wanted because the agent held off on even showing our offer to his client in order to give his buying clients a chance to put theirs in first, we learned our lesson and ended up going through the selling agent ourselves on the home we finally did get. As a result, we had to pay our agent outside of contract for all of his work with us AND the selling agent for getting our offer accepted. We were so desperate at that point, we went ahead with it, but if we weren’t needing a home (our lease was up in 3 weeks at this point!) we probably wouldn’t have done it.

Me: How does this change your financial picture going forward?

Danielle: It has helped us lay down our roots to really start planning for our future. We look around our new place and think, “Wow this is ours!” and it feels so good to not be paying someone else’s mortgage! Now that we have a home with a comfortable payment, we are focused on saving for our son’s education, preparing for more children and saving for our retirement someday. It was definitely the right decision for us even though we didn’t anticipate making the move for another year.

Me: What words of advice do you have for other young families who are thinking about buying their first home?

Danielle: Do your research. Don’t rely on what listing agents are sending or telling you. Go to open houses yourself and talk to the agents.

Get a scope of what the seller is looking for. It’s always good to get as much information as you can about what you’re going into. Compare loan rates at different financial institutions and ask about first-time home buyer programs.

Also, don’t skimp out on the inspection! My husband and I spent nearly $1,000 on three different home inspections because we decided to go with a very thorough inspector instead of a cheaper, less thorough one. As a result of what he found, we backed out of two homes that would have ended up being financial nightmares for us down the road.

Finally, start saving now. We didn’t honestly think we could buy a home this soon after having our son, but saving was pretty painless, and it wasn’t nearly as hard as we expected to cut back on things we rarely used anyway. Pick 2-3 small expenses you can cut and start there. You’ll find that it’s kind of fun to see how much you can save every month!

Thank you so much to Danielle for sharing this experience and wisdom! For tips on applying for a mortgage, check out Five Things to Know About Applying for a Mortgage. Now you tell me – what things did you learn as you saved and shopped for your first home? Anything you’d do differently? Please email me, share on our Facebook page or send me a tweet @kclmoneycoach.