What to Do When You’re Expecting
July 19, 2016When my husband and I got married, we wanted children, but we had to face the reality that it would be difficult to have children due to prior medical issues. Apparently, God had a different plan for us and I found myself surprisingly pregnant within two weeks of trying. We were happy with the news but after the joy wore off, I started putting on my planner hat to figure out how to plan financially for the new baby. I’ve always believed in learning from other people’s experience, so I started asking friends of mine who were parents what financial guidance they would give to a woman pregnant with her first baby, knowing what they know now. The list started pouring out:
1. There are enough surprises to being a new mom without medical bills being one of them. Contact your healthcare provider to find out how you are covered for medical visits, including vaginal and c-section deliveries and well-baby care. Once you have the numbers, consider increasing your contributions into a health savings account (HSA) or a flexible spending account (FSA) to cover the costs with pre-tax money.
2. You only get one time to be a first-time mom so take all of the leave offered to you. Contact your employer to clarify how much time you can take off and how much you will get paid during the time off. Many companies offer paternity leave so find out the rules for the baby’s father as well. If the leave is unpaid, figure out how much time you want – factoring in that you may want to take leave before the baby comes and/or your bundle of joy may be late (mine was almost two weeks pat due) into your numbers.
3. What is your ideal maternity leave? Do you have lots of friends and family to help out or do you need to outsource? If you are the primary cook of the family, do you need to budget an eating out, food delivery or frozen food budget? Do you want a nanny or baby nurse to help you out? Would you like a cleaning service to help you for the first few weeks?
Start thinking about what costs are involved in each of these options. Delivered prepared meals can run over $300 for two a day. A baby nurse could cost upwards of $200 a day. Average cost of maid services can run upwards of $157 for the service. If your budget is tight, consider asking for frozen meals or even for people to pitch in and pay for a cleaning service as part of your baby shower gift or reach out to your local place of worship for help.
4. Once you have your numbers, start to work on a budget for when you are on maternity leave as well as a budget for when you return to work. Account for possible medical costs, any gaps between your pay before maternity leave, and the costs that come with a new baby – endless diapers, wipes and if needed, formula. After you go back to work, you’ll also have possibly new work clothes (it took me forever to fit back into my pre-baby clothes), daycare (for a year, I called my daughter my little mortgage payment) and additional doctor visits. Any parent with kids can tell you that with the first baby, as soon as they sneeze, you are crying and heading to the doctor. With baby number #2, as long as they aren’t spitting up blood, you don’t even bother.
5. If your budget shows a shortfall, take the total amount needed and divide it by the months you have left and that is your savings goal. Start thinking about what you can cut back on now to save the funds. Can you reduce your cable and cell phone bills and eat out less? Can you use vacation days to get additional paid time off?
What did I learn from all this? Overall, the best guidance centered around thinking through what your ideal maternity looks like, putting those ideas into tangible dollars and realistically assessing your finances to see if it is doable. Taking these few steps will make your first few months with your bundle of joy less financially stressful.