What Financial Security Really Means

July 13, 2016

When my colleague Matthew recently announced that his family had made the decision to move to Maui this summer, I was immediately intrigued. I’m a big believer in gathering wisdom from the experiences of others, so I asked Matthew to share the process that he and his family went through in making this life-altering decision. Here’s what he had to say, from an edited interview:

Q: You and your family have decided to move to Maui this summer. Was this something you always planned to do?

Matthew: This wasn’t something we always wanted to do. I was pretty content living in Southern California, due to our strong relationships here, up until recently. My wife’s family is from Maui, and she was born and raised there. Moving to Maui is something we only began to seriously consider end of December, last year.

Q: Was there a specific event that triggered you to start thinking about this?

Matthew: A number of happenings triggered us thinking about moving to Maui. For 14+ years, we had been part of a tight knit community through our church. Recently, some of the key leaders in that community passed away. Our families were really close so it was a big hit. It really hasn’t been the same since.

We started re-thinking why we were in Los Angeles. It’s a busy place, and in many ways, not our ideal place to live, although we have really enjoyed the work and relationship opportunities we’ve had. We began to consider other places to live, Hawaii being the chief place, due to my wife being from there.

Q: What was your timeline for making this decision and what things did you consider?

Matthew: It took about 6 months to determine if the move was viable, and after we determined it was viable, we went with it. We considered a number of different factors:

• Cost of living: Hawaii is a pretty expensive place to live, but so is where we currently live (the South Bay of Los Angeles). We performed a cost of living analysis and determined that besides food and gas, it’s pretty much a wash.
• Housing costs: Rental rates are about the same between Maui and LA. We were pleasantly surprised to learn that housing prices are a bit more affordable than the South Bay, especially if you stay away from the beach.
• Potential job salary (if we were unable to keep our jobs): We weren’t sure if we’d be able to keep our jobs or have to find new ones, so this was a bit of a gamble. After doing research on IT jobs for me and biology jobs for my wife, we found that we could possibly take a 50% pay cut if we moved. So we did some soul searching and felt ok with this decision – a more restful, peaceful way of life was more important to us than making more money and having a more expanded lifestyle.
• Our current savings: We have been aggressively lowering debt and saving money for the last few years, which was a huge factor in our decision to move. Having a financial cushion to fall back on helped ease concerns over the cost of moving, initial rent payments, and possibly being without a job for a few months.
• Relationships: Friends we’d be leaving behind as well as the benefit of being closer to my in-laws were important considerations. My son has a lot of close friendships with kids his age through school, so that was a big one to work through.

Q: Anything that would have caused you NOT to make the move?

Matthew: A number of things had to line up for this to work, and if any one of them had not, we probably wouldn’t have considered moving. First, and most important, we needed the existing relationships in Maui (my wife’s family and friends), which leads to potential connections between us and the community. Second, we had to have a viable financial plan to move. Third, the hope of a better lifestyle is what pushed us over the edge.

Q: If you had one piece of advice for people thinking about making a life change like this, what would it be?

Matthew: There’s a lot that goes into a decision like this, and obviously it’s not something to take lightly. I think understanding yourself, as well as understanding your immediate family is super important. What type of environment will make you and your family most effective and happy should be your starting place.

Some of us are lucky, and we understand ourselves from the get-go pretty well. Others may need to spend some time soul searching and looking for answers as to who we are and where we should go in life before decisions like this. This process takes time, but if you want to be effective and happy as a person, you’ll want to undergo this process and continue to re-evaluate and develop over time.

After you do some soul searching within yourself and with your family, then you can start evaluating where you might want to move. Is the place you’re thinking of a place to visit or is it a place to live? Could you really be happy there long term?

Do I, as a person, make sense within that community or region? Will I fit in well there? Do I have something to offer that community? Do I have the potential to care about the people that live there or will all of my relationships likely be superficial?

Lastly, have an exit plan in case you miscalculated. If it doesn’t work out or if the place doesn’t line up, what’s the worst that can happen? Can you and your family leave relatively unscathed?

The CFP® viewpoint: I was very happy to see that the long and short-term effects on family finances played a central role in the decision but that this wasn’t the primary factor. I’ve seen so many instances where families are dragged around the country as one parent climbs the ladder in a corporate job only to find that the financial success wasn’t worth the strain on their marriage, kids and overall life. I also love the fact that before they had this idea, they had already begun laying the financial foundation, and to me, that’s actually the key takeaway for all of us.

Even if you’re not sure what your “Moving to Maui” event will be, being financially prepared will make the decision much simpler. It’s a real shame to say no to the things you really want to do because you’re too burdened by debt or don’t have any savings in the bank to allow for leaps of faith. To me, that’s the true definition of financial security – making choices for every reason besides money because you’ve already got that one taken care of.