Financial Lessons From a Chess Board

March 31, 2017

I don’t always watch 60 Minutes anymore, but when I do, I am reminded that I have liked it since I was a kid. That brings up a few points. First, the show has been on a very long time! Second, I was a weird kid – watching 60 Minutes while my neighborhood friends rode their bikes. I’d join them before and after so it’s not like I wasn’t social too…just nerdy.

In a recent episode, there was a story about a man teaching chess to kids in Mississippi. Google “60 Minutes chess” and watch the quick story. Here’s a quick synopsis of the segment. What I found fascinating is that while he’s teaching the kids to play chess, he is actually teaching them about far more than that. He’s teaching incredibly valuable life lessons.

I have some odd thoughts on parenting, but I’ve summed it up this way: If I teach my kids how to win with class, lose with grace and think through a decision making process, I’ll feel like I’ve prepared them for the real world. That’s a part of what he is teaching these kids.

Chess, like life, requires patience and constant learning in order to succeed. They kids, like all of us, learn more from their losses than their wins. For them, this is because they review the losses for what they could have done better. The sting of a loss is a great teaching tool.

In a way, conversations about money can have that flavor too. I’ve talked with a lot of people who start their conversations with me by saying “I’m lousy with money” or “I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my financial life.”   The good news is that they recognize that they could have done things differently. The downside is that they haven’t worked with anyone, like a coach, who has been able to help them review their mistakes and provide suggestions for ways to improve based on those losses.

When I hear conversations start that way, I immediately stop the conversation and tell people that they are no longer allowed to speak negatively about their financial skills. I ask if they were handed a violin and put on stage with the New York Symphony, if they’d do well or if they’d fare well in a chess match against Bobby Fisher (for those with great memories) or Magnus Carlsen (for a more current reference) if they have never played before. The answer is a universal “NO.” Those are skills that are honed over a lifetime of practicing and learning.

Managing your personal finances is way easier than mastering chess or the violin so it won’t require nearly as much effort or skill. In fact, it’s relatively simple to become a financial success. There have been years worth of blog posts in this space giving little tips about how to become financially well/secure. I’ll close by summing up several years of posts in a few bullet points:

  • Spend less than you take home.
  • Save 15-20% of your income for retirement.
  • Have a healthy emergency fund. (Start with $1,000, get to $2,500, and then get to 6-9 months of expenses over the course of time.)
  • Pay attention to where you spend money. No one will care about your money as much as you, so guard every dollar that you work hard to earn.
  • When you mess up, which we all do, figure out why. Learn from it and don’t repeat it.

 

 

 

How to Teach Your Kids About Money With An Allowance

June 08, 2016

Do you remember the financial lessons you learned from your parents or other close adults while growing up? No doubt your own financial habits and mindset are influenced to this day by the actions and attitudes you observed as a child. This is a good reminder that your adult behavior around money will most certainly affect your children and other young people who look up to you.

One great way to have a positive influence, even if you’re still on your own personal journey to financial security, is by paying an allowance. There is an ongoing debate about whether an allowance should be tied to household chores or not, but many people agree that it’s a great way to teach children about money and financial responsibility. Regardless of whether you believe children should work for their allowance or whether it should be a gift, here are some tips to make the most of this lesson for your kids.

Be consistent. One of the greatest things an allowance can do is teach your kids how to budget, which requires consistency of income. Whether you pay weekly, biweekly or even just monthly, do it on the same day and in the same amount so they understand the value of making their money last. Caving and paying kids early could be akin to payday loans, which is the exact opposite of what you want to teach your kids.

Help them set goals. This can help them see the value of skipping short-term wants, like candy, in exchange for reaching longer-term goals like a video game. One suggestion is to require kids to put one-third of their allowance into savings and one-third toward a charitable need like an animal shelter or church, with the remaining third available for immediate spending.

Introduce them to banking. Open a savings account for your child’s longer-term savings and show them how to check their balance online, pointing out how interest (however miniscule) accumulates, allowing their money to compound. This is also a great way to demonstrate that the ‘M’ in ATM doesn’t mean “magic.” That cash gets in there somehow!

What if you don’t have the money to pay an allowance? This was sometimes the case in my earlier years, but there are still ways to pass along the lessons even if you can’t pass along cash:

1. Use a grocery allowance. Allow your kids a certain amount of the grocery budget that they can spend on special treats or even for their breakfast foods, which you need to buy anyway. I’ll always remember watching a mom do this at the store. When her son selected an expensive yogurt smoothie, I heard her explain how that was a fine, healthy choice, but if he wanted that instead of the less expensive store brand yogurt for breakfast, he would have to put back the juice he had already chosen. The trade-off was tangible and clear.

2. Keep a written tab. If you don’t always have the cash available on allowance day, simply keep a written record by adding that week’s amount to your child’s tab and then when you buy something for them, subtract it from the tab. This isn’t a bad way to go even if you do have the funds as it’s closer to the way we are paid and spend money in modern times anyway.

3. Remember that it’s often more about the practice than the amount. Perhaps you can’t afford to pay the average $67.80 per month that’s the current going rate. Even just $5 a week can teach the lessons.

These are some great ways to use an allowance to raise financially responsible adults, but I know there are others out there. How do you teach your kids about money? Please let me know via Twitter at @kclmoneycoach or post on our Facebook page.

What I Am Teaching My Kids About Money

October 13, 2014

As you may know from following this blog, I have just completed my dissertation and other requirements to earn my Ph.D in Personal Financial Planning from Kansas State University so we now have two proud Wildcat alums on staff here. (Doug Spencer is the other. He personifies loyalty to one’s alma mater and has plenty of purple shirts in his wardrobe to prove it.) Continue reading “What I Am Teaching My Kids About Money”

How to Educate Your Kids on Proper Money Management

January 19, 2014

When it comes to money, kids today are presented with a world of choices that most of us parents didn’t have to worry about when we were young. You certainly didn’t have to think about the latest iPod or iPad, $100 tennis shoes, or any other purchases of that magnitude. Depending on your age, credit and debit cards may not even have been around when you were younger – if you grew up when I did, you either had money or you didn’t. Continue reading “How to Educate Your Kids on Proper Money Management”

Financial Lessons From the Amish

August 27, 2013

One of my favorite things about summer is fresh corn so I’m fortunate to have an Amish neighbor who runs Briar Hollow Farm Market, where I can buy it within walking distance from my house. When I first met the Stoltzfus family, I was amazed at their simple way of living. We can learn a lot from the Amish way of life though. Continue reading “Financial Lessons From the Amish”

Financial Lessons From a Six Year Old

August 15, 2012

Today’s blog post is the last in a series of posts sharing the results of interviews I’ve conducted with my four children on the topic of money.  As you may recall, my oldest, Rachel (14), is a saver, and looks at money as something to be used for necessities.  David (12) is my value hunter, and prefers to buy things that have a lasting quality.  Ethan (9) is more of a spender, willing to use any money he has to buy things he wants right now.  Bringing up the rear is Jacob. Continue reading “Financial Lessons From a Six Year Old”