The Father’s Day Gift That Keeps On Giving

June 16, 2016

Are you looking for a last minute gift for Father’s Day? Instead of another necktie that he probably doesn’t need, why not a gift that keeps on giving: financial wellness? Of course, none of us can actually give someone financial wellness, but the next best thing would be our CEO’s new book What Your Financial Advisor Isn’t Telling You.

Don’t worry. If your dad is like mine and acts as his own financial advisor, this book could still apply because much of it covers essential personal finance information that financial advisors typically don’t tell their clients like how to build wealth in the first place. (Advisors generally won’t work with you unless you already have some wealth for them to manage.) If your dad does have an advisor, the book discusses how to best work with an advisor, how to know if he has the right advisor, and how to find a new one if necessary. Specifically, here are some topics that would be particularly useful for dads:

Life Insurance and Estate Planning. These are important topics for dads because they’re still typically the primary breadwinners in their families, and men generally don’t live as long as women. To really see the value of estate planning for dads and what specific steps they can take, see this blog post by my colleague Greg Ward.

Basic Money Management:Money is often cited as a top source of stress and an issue that couples fight about. It can be particularly difficult for new parents. Among all the other challenges are the additional expenses and possibly a loss of income if one parent takes some time off work. Having a better understanding of money management can lead to lower stress and more marital bliss for both mom and dad alike.

Investing. In my experience working with couples, the husband usually manages the family’s investments. However, it turns out that most would probably be better off letting their wives handle this since research has found that on average, women are better investors than men. This is because hormones like testosterone and cortisol can contribute to more overconfidence and less patience in men, which leads them to invest more in things they don’t fully understand, take bigger risks, and trade more frequently (which costs more money). Learning more about investing from an unbiased source can help them overcome their biology and become better investors.

What Your Financial Advisor Isn’t Telling You or a similar personal finance book can be a great Father’s Day gift that benefits the whole family. At the very least, it will be sure to cost you much less than the $116 average that people spend on a Father’s Day gift. You can always use those savings to buy him a nicer tie next year.

 

 

What Our Dads Taught Us

June 10, 2016

Since Father’s Day is right around the corner, I asked some coworkers what the best piece of advice their father gave them was. I’ll share their responses and add a bit of commentary with each one:

My dad is from Guyana and he stressed the importance of education in the U.S. He told me that my ability to grow my income will be based in part by finishing my degree- the rest is up to how hard I work.

As a dad who stresses the importance of education AND hard work (either one alone will not suffice), I totally agree with this dad’s advice. My kids have heard countless times that they are expected to do well in school and expected to put forth effort in all things they attempt to accomplish. This dad’s advice should be universally accepted as true wisdom.

Dad didn’t always say a lot, but he set a great example with how he prioritized his time.  He got to work early, was home on time for dinner with the family and helped us with homework if we needed it, then he went back to work until the job was done. If we had a ballgame or a concert, he adjusted his schedule to make sure to be there and he loved going to sporting events with me and my brother so he made that a priority as well.

Again, this is timeless wisdom from a dad who put family first. If more dads followed this path, perhaps we wouldn’t have many of the issues we see in this country today.

Don’t trust a man or get pregnant before having a job.

Well, this is certainly advice that served my coworker well. She’s a very independent and successful woman, and she’s raised lovely daughters as well. The principles of self reliance and good decision making that her father instilled, in his own unique way, have served her well. The lesson here, at least as I see it, is to find ways to communicate your financial lessons to your family members in ways that they will receive.

Mostly about being in a desperate situation or feeling down-trodden: 1 – You can’t fall off the floor. 2 – They can’t take away your birthday.

One of my favorite sentiments, this dad was all about the power of resilience. Resilience is a key trait in those who I’ve seen reach a high level of success. It’s what can keep a person moving forward toward a goal when most rational people would fold.

Have a firm handshake as it shows confidence.

A timeless pearl of wisdom, right there! A firm handshake and the ability to look someone in the eyes when holding a conversation sometime feel like “the way things used to be” rather than what I see in today’s higher tech world.

My dad was the one who taught me about how little changes add up. For example, when our credit union introduced debit cards back in the late 90’s, they were paying members $.25 PER TRANSACTION to encourage use of the card over checks. My dad was like, “Hot diggity, this is free money for spending money you’re already spending! You have to do this!” This was my first foray into taking advantage of rewards programs, discounts, etc, but ONLY on things I was going to buy anyway. I learned to be practical and frugal from my dad.

This dad should be a Financial Finesse blogger!!!

Your work ethic is something nobody can ever take away from you, so work hard and let it speak for you. It will take you further than your talent alone can and past the majority of people who aren’t willing to work as hard.

This reminds me of the first dad’s advice about education and effort. It kind of brings the list of dad tips full circle.

What I love about this list of tidbits from dads is that the children who received this advice ended up being successful adults and working here at Financial Finesse. Every single item on the list is also reminiscent of either what my grandfather taught me as a child or something that my kids have heard from me. None of these items seem like a “get rich quick” kind of message. It’s definitely a lot of tortoise and not much hare. If you absorb the messages from Financial Finesse’s dad squad, you are certain to be thankful this Father’s Day.

 

 

Financial Lessons From My Father

June 20, 2013

With my colleague Greg Ward’s post yesterday about teaching his children the value of a dollar and Father’s Day still in my recent memory, I reflected on what financial lessons my own father passed on to me. After all, he was a former stockbroker and is now a successful investor. Here are some that have stuck with me: Continue reading “Financial Lessons From My Father”